Gushaka umugore umwe no gushaka abagore benshi mu Rwanda: Impaka zishingiye ku ndangagaciro, uburinganire n’ubukungu

Mu Rwanda, igingo yo gushyingiranwa n’umugore umwe (monogamy) no gushyingiranwa n’abagore benshi (polygamy) ikomeje kuba impaka zisubira mu muryango nyarwanda, cyane cyane mu gihe indangagaciro zigenda zihinduka, uburinganire bw’abagabo n’abagore bugashyirwa imbere, ndetse n’ubukungu bwo mu buzima bwa buri munsi bukagenda buhenda.

Mu muco gakondo, poligami yari yemewe mu bice bimwe by’igihugu, ahanini bitewe n’imibereho yo mu cyaro n’imirimo ishingiye ku buhinzi. Ariko muri iki gihe, Abanyarwanda benshi batangiye kwibaza niba gushyingiranwa n’umuntu umwe bidatanga umutekano, ubutabera n’amahoro arambye mu muryango w’iki gihe.

Mu bice bitandukanye by’igihugu, abaturage bagaragaza ibitekerezo bitandukanye ku bijyanye n’ishyingirwa. Nyamara, benshi bagaragaza ko gushyingiranwa n’umuntu umwe bifasha kubaka icyizere, ituze mu muryango no kurera abana mu buryo butarimo amakimbirane.

Ange Mukamana, umubyeyi w’abana babiri utuye mu Mujyi wa Kigali, avuga ko monogami ikomeza ubumwe bw’umuryango. Ati:
“Gushyingirwa n’umuntu umwe bidufasha kwizerana no kurera abana mu mahoro, nta makimbirane adakenewe.”

Na Jeanette Uwitonze wo mu Karere ka Musanze yemeza ko gushyingirwa umuntu umwe bigabanya ishyari n’irushanwa mu muryango. Ati:
“Iyo ufite uwo mwashakanye umwe, umwitaho byuzuye nta guhangana n’abandi.”

Nubwo umuco wo gushaka abagore benshi urushaho kugenda ugabanuka, hari abagituye mu byaro bakibona poligami nk’ifite inyungu mu mibereho yabo, cyane cyane aho imirimo yo mu mirima n’ubwishingizi bw’abana bikenewe cyane.

Christopher Nzayisenga, umuhinzi wo mu Karere ka Gicumbi, avuga ko poligami ishobora kugira umumaro iyo ishingiye ku bwubahane. Ati:
“Ishobora gufasha mu mirimo no kurera abana, ariko bikagerwaho ari uko abagore bose bubahwa.”

Oreste Hatungimana wo mu Karere ka Burera na we ashimangira ko ubutabera ari bwo shingiro rya poligami igenda neza. Ati:
“Iyo ikozwe neza, buri wese agasobanukirwa inshingano ze, bishobora kugenda neza”

Mu rubyiruko, impaka kuri monogami na poligami zishingira cyane ku buringanire. Abenshi bagaragaza ko gushyingiranwa n’umuntu umwe byoroshya kugabana urukundo, umutungo n’inshingano mu buryo bungana.

Betty Uwineza, umunyeshuri w’imyaka 22 muri kaminuza, agira ati:
“Iyo mufitanye umubano n’umuntu umwe, uburinganire bugerwaho. Ntawe utoneshwa kurusha undi.”

Na Dominique Twahirwa, umunyeshuri utuye i Kigali, yemeza ko kwibanda ku mufasha umwe bigabanya amakimbirane bigashimangira icyubahiro hagati y’abashakanye.

Abaturage benshi bagaragaza ko poligami itagihura n’ubukungu bwo muri iki gihe, aho ibisabwa mu buzima bwa buri munsi bigenda bihenda.

Patrick Itangishatse, umucuruzi wo mu Karere ka Ruhango, avuga ko
“Kwita ku bagore benshi n’abana babo bisaba amafaranga menshi. Umufasha umwe biroroha.”

Jaqueline Musabyimana wo mu Karere ka Rwamagana na we yemeza ko ubuzima buhenze butuma monogami iba amahitamk afatika kurushaho.

Abakuru mu muryango nyarwanda bakunze kugaragaza impungenge ku ngaruka za poligami, cyane cyane ishyari n’amakimbirane.

Jane Mukamutesi, umubyeyi  wo mu Karere ka Huye, avuga ko
“Umufasha umwe azana amahoro. Abenshi bakurura ishyari n’intonganya.”

Jean Bosco Turahirwa, umusaza wo mu Karere ka Gakenke, yongeraho ko ubumwe bw’umuryango bworoha kurushaho mu gushyingiranwa n’umuntu umwe.

Amategeko y’u Rwanda ateganya ko ishyingirwa ryemewe ari irishingiye kuri monogami, bikajyana n’intego z’igihugu zo guteza imbere uburinganire n’uburenganzira bw’abagore.

Uwahoze ari Minisitiri w’Iterambere ry’Umuryango n’Uburinganire, Dr. Valentine Uwamariya, yigeze gushimangira ko ishyingirwa rigomba kurengera abagore no kubaha uburenganzira bungana.

Na Minisitiri wahoze kuri izo nshingano, Hon. Nyirasafari Espérance, yagaragaje ko monogami ifasha kurinda abana no gukumira amakimbirane mu miryango.

Impuguke mu bijyanye n’uburinganire, Prof. Jeannette Bayisenge, agaragaza ko poligami igira ingaruka ku muryango n’igihugu muri rusange. Ati:
“Amakimbirane yo mu miryango abangamira iterambere ry’igihugu. Umutekano w’igihugu utangirira mu muryango wubakiye ku buringanire.”

Ubushakashatsi mpuzamahanga bwakozwe mu 2021, bwasohotse mu kinyamakuru BMC Pregnancy and Childbirth, bwagaragaje ko abagore bashyingiwe ku bagabo bafite abagore benshi (poligami) bafite ibyago byo kwiheba birenze inshuro ebyiri ugereranyije n’abari muri monogami.

Ubundi bushakashatsi bwo mu 2020 bwashyizwe ahagaragara mu Archives of Women’s Mental Health bwerekanye ko poligami ifitanye isano n’ubwiyongere bw’agahinda, umujinya n’imikorere mibi y’imiryango.

Impaka kuri monogami na poligami mu Rwanda zigaragaza ibibazo byimbitse bijyanye n’uburinganire, imibereho myiza n’iterambere rirambye. Nubwo poligami ishobora kuba ifite inyungu zigaragara mu bihe n’ahantu runaka, ibitekerezo by’abaturage, icyerekezo cy’ubuyobozi n’ubushakashatsi mpuzamahanga bigaragaza ko monogami ifasha kubaka imiryango itekanye, irengera abagore n’abana, kandi igateza imbere ubuzima bwo mu mutwe.

Mu rugendo rw’u Rwanda rugana ku iterambere ridaheza, gushyingiranwa n’umuntu umwe bigenda bigaragara nk’icyitegererezo gihura n’amahoro, icyubahiro n’iterambere ry’igihugu.